A Heart to Heart: Check In- How Are You?

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In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, it’s easy to get caught up in deadlines, responsibilities, and routines, often overlooking a simple yet profound question: How are you?

It’s Friday, and a dear friend stopped by to say hello. I hadn’t seen her since the new year began, and reconnecting brought a wave of relief. She asked me how I was, and I answered in the way we often do, quickly, with the typical “I’m fine.” But then, just a few minutes later, she paused and asked again, “How are you really?”

That question hit me differently. Although I didn’t really say a lot at that moment, it made me realize I had more to say than I initially let on.

It’s only the seventeenth day of the new year, but it feels like a whirlwind has passed through my life. Beyond what people might glimpse on social media or in passing conversations, beyond what you’re about to read here, this past week alone has been a rollercoaster.

I’ve transitioned from starting the year strong, securing six figures on the first order of the year for my business, to being the "media girl" everyone sees actively handling her work. Then came the lows: falling sick, hooked to drips and pain meds, yet somehow still finding the energy to send emails, be there for friends, and scout for opportunities. All the while, I’ve been trying to juggle schoolwork, meet deadlines, and keep it all together. And just when I think I can’t do more, I find myself back on the road, dressed up and looking like nothing is out of place, all of this in just eight days.

How do I do it? Honestly, I don’t know. People ask, and I laugh it off, but the truth is, it’s not all fun. It’s exhausting, and overwhelming all at once.

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Her question, “How are you really?” reminded me of the importance of pausing to reflect. It’s so easy to get swept up in everything we’re doing that we forget to acknowledge the toll it takes on us. Sometimes, we need to peel back the layers of “I’m fine” and admit that we’re not invincible.

So here’s a note to myself and anyone reading this: It’s okay to slow down. It’s okay to admit that you’re tired, overwhelmed, or just in need of a moment to breathe. Because behind every “I’m fine,” there’s a story, and it’s worth telling even if it’s just to yourself.

In a world that can feel overwhelming at times, a heart-to-heart check-in can remind us of the power of connection. It’s a small act with a big impact, because sometimes, just knowing someone cares is enough to brighten even the darkest day.

So, how are you, really?

Here’s to Victor, it’s okay to admit to your current emotions right now, take all your time. We are all rooting and praying for your full recovery.❤

🎶🎶 Rahama - Kaestrings